Here's what I'm reading this morning:
Moneyballing (yeah, I'll learn that later) certain aspects to get a lasting relationship. According to Tasahiro, moneyballing is "..all about finding undervalued traits and assets in the dating market.
And, just like with baseball, it starts with trying to ignore the
superficial indices of value — attractiveness, wealth — in favor of
hidden attributes with a stronger correlation to long-term relationship
It's not a matter of lowering one's expectations - rather, it's about changing the expectations altogether. Instead of looking at the cover-of-the-book, it's advised to look at other traits that will strengthen both of your compatibility and lead to better sex and a longer lasting relationship.
One of my biggest flaws is...my choice of food. Now, I'm not at any immediate risk of a heart-attack - according to my excellent doctor who doesn't put me through a horrible quality-of-life. But I will admit (I am munching on a Frosted Brown-Sugar Cinnamon Pop Tart at this moment), that my food choices are not-ideal - in that they are not kale. I know this is a sticky point for my wife, because she also has as much willpower against ice-cream that I do.
I can't be the only one in this situation. My metabolism allows me to somehow eat all of this delicious chemistry and not gain weight from it - but my wife is not so blessed and bemoans the bathroom scale. She relies on me for the food shopping and cooking, so it is a challenge to undertake researching healthier foods to buy and prepare while not going bankrupt at our local Whole Paycheck.
I mentioned quality-of-life and I need other people to recognize it as well. Many will argue that a life spent eating kale and raw oats is not life at all, especially when compared to a life of eating perfectly-prepared bacon. Us New Englanders are all-too-familiar with Puritanical doctrine and we are quick to equate SUFFERING with Godliness (really, it's the only way to survive the winter Nor'Easters). I find the zen buddhist approach more attractive in that "If you are hungry, eat." Also, mad props to Buddha for appearing as a happy, fat, Asian dude.
So, this is one struggle that we are battling in our lives. Yes, our pet iguana eats better than we do, but at least we're happy sharing a chocolate shake together.
Take that, kale.